Weaving my way through motherhood whilst trying not to mess up adulthood.

The Book of You

 Get ready to start living a better life for you

The resolutions usually start on the eve of New years day, the day when the guilt over the extra helping of christmas pudding or that awful nail biting habit you been meaning to quit starts to kick in. But like so many, by the second week of January as the store sale items dwell down  to just odd socks and hair bobbles, the resolutions that were followed so religiously now don't quite have a look in.

The problem I think is that the new year brings hopes for a new beginning and a new start and instead of choosing small tasks we all tend to go big or go home! This is why The Book of YOU offers a different take on resolutions, offering not just one or two changes but 365 micro actions for a happier, healthier you.

Food, Mind, Move and Love are the categories covered, with each sub category giving a useful tip for the day, these are a few of the actions mentioned:

Food: Fill your fruit bowl- I love having fresh fruit in my bowl and love to have a variety especially for after-school so Lei can reach for fruit rather than the biscuits

Mind: Enjoy Silence- I am known to enjoy my own company and whenever I do, I often like to be quiet,letting my mind be free to be creative with my writing or ideas for my blog.

Move: Explore the neighbourhood: This year I plan to travel more and discover new places, cultures and traditions.

Love: Find kindness around you:An act of kindness can melt even the coldest of hearts and this action can make you realise just how many people are willing to be kind if you just stop and have a look. It doesn't have to be big, just something as simple as holding a door open or helping someone with a difficult task can spread positivity

 There is no set way to read the book which is one of the things I loved as anything too restricting will cause me to lose interest so instead I chose a random action each day, something I will continue to do throughout the year.

One of the mind actions called for going to bed early, a real struggle of mine as I often leave everything until the last minute, resulting in late bedtimes and early rises. This action suggested getting everything ready early so that instead of fighting the need to sleep I can just fall into a peaceful well rested slumber.

The book of you has now taken  pride of place on my dressing table and is my go-to for daily prompts and to help me feel positive and ready to tackle the day ahead-especially if it is a Monday!

*I was sent The book of You in return for an honest review

Procrastination: My bestfriend and me

My best friend is called procrastination.

 Our relationship is like no other, she will knock on my door at anytime of the day, no matter how busy I am or tired and I just can't find the will to turn her away, so before I know it I have lost all sense of date and time with  Procrastination reassuring  me that it doesn't matter-we have each other and that is all that matters.

The laundry basket is full, I sort it into darks, colours and lights choosing the heaviest pile to be washed first and just as I am about to put the soap in the drawer, Procrastination is humming this tune in my ear, she's humming and I am trying to work out what it is, my feet are tapping, fingers clicking as I put the soap back on the counter and head straight to the computer, I NEED-TO-KNOW WHAT-THAT-SONG IS.....

Procrastination is of course useless at helping me, she is  just hum, hum,humming away, urging me to google search snippets of the lyrics, then play it on Spotify and watch the video on YouTube.

Result: five music videos, make-up tutorial, cupcake tutorial and a vlog later, Procrastination has left, leaving me with my bone dry dirty laundry.

Procrastination and I are curled up on the sofa, the television is on, but we are not watching it, it is merely a bit of back ground noise as we get stuck into a book. A book which has been on the to-read pile for a few months now. Then just as the protagonist is going to reveal her deepest secret, procrastination whispers in my ear : "Read it later..." and as if by magic, the page is bookmarked and the remote is in my hand, last weeks unread magazine in my lap and after a hour of reality television I decide enough is enough and that I should really sort out the over flowing toy box but with the disguise of a good friend, procrastination takes me by the hand pats the sofa and in that ever so convincing voice she says: "Do it tomorrow...."

 Procrastination has invited herself for a sleepover, it's a school night so a bit inconvenient, especially as she is in the mood for staying up all night and I am ready to go to bed. She vies for my attention, coaxing and urging me to just reach for my phone. I ignore her by switching off the lights, but somehow, Procrastination has put the phone in my hand and together we are opening Facebook...scroll...scroll..like...scroll past the Facebook rants filled with indirects...engagement announcements...like..birth of babies...like....


Now, onto instagram,I switch on the light to get a better look....oh no! 52 weeks deep into   an insta-stalk and I have liked a random picture of a cactus- I AM MORTIFIED, procrastination is finding this amusing.
"Don't worry, we won't  sleep...Netflix and chill?" she suggests and I am considering her offer despite my body yearning for sleep.

Result: Six episodes, ten retweets and half a blog post later and Procrastination has decided she no longer wants to stay the night....

On my Christmas list to Santa I asked to procrastinate less and I think he misunderstood what I meant because instead I have gained a best friend who doesn't deal with the ethos of : GETTING ON WITH IT!

Does anyone want a new friend?

Name: Procrastination
Age: Unknown
Location: Next to Jade Priscilla who desperately wants to shake her off, so any suggestions would be greatly welcomed.

How to plan a January birthday

Birthday cake made by Babycakes &Bakes for my mum's birthday in November

 Christmas is over and a new countdown has officially started...

As soon as the last dish was cleared away and we all clambered onto the sofa to watch Christmas television and pick out our favourites from the chocolate tin, a little princess gave us all a reminder that is wouldn't be very long until we celebrated her 7th birthday!

Yesterday she declared that it is 11 days until her birthday and I feigned surprise by opening my eyes wide and saying: "No waaayy, I thought it was my birthday!"
And I watched as her little face lit up with excitement, her eyes twinkling as she laughed and said: "Nooo Mummy, it's MY birthday!"

I opened my eyes wide and mocked fake surprise:  "Are you sure Lei? I thought it was my birthday!" I say and she giggled as she shouted nooooo!

Of course, I haven't forgotten, especially as I like to be well prepared considering the special day is right after Christmas.

Here is how I plan for Lei's birthday


I shop for Christmas and birthday presents at the same time and like an elf or  the birthday fairy, I hide gifts around the house hoping that they will keep well hidden until the big day. I find that by buying presents at the same time, it eases any mad panic shopping and also helps in getting presents that she will actually want. So far I have brought us tickets to see Wicked in Theatre, some classic books which I can't wait to read with her and some other surprises.


January is an awkward month for birthday parties as most places get booked up quickly. This year we are not having a party but if I was I would have planned way ahead, perhaps late November, early December. Pinterest is full of ideas for decorations and invitations


Having a January birthday has it's perks as usually for Christmas Lei will get a few lovely outfits which she will wear over the holiday season and for her birthday. The boxing day sales are also perfect for finding something affordable but perfect for your little prince or princess.

Day out

Birthdays do not have to be extravagant or expensive and a day out at a play centre, or to a museum can be just as fun. One year I organised a party for Lei and forecast of snow threatened to postpone everything, which is why a small outing can quickly be changed to suit the weather and won't lead to any disappoint if Mother Nature decides to be a party pooper!

Food and Birthday Cake  

Dinner or lunch in a nice restaurant is one of mine and Lei's favourites thing to do and of course you have to have a birthday cake! I have ordered mine from Babycakes& Bakes whose cakes taste as fantastic as they look. Again, booking early is the key as most companies have late Christmas parties in January.

So that is how I plan for my January baby's birthday, I will be sharing pictures from the day and of our trip to Wicked on the blog but also on instagram, so be sure to follow along.

Do you celebrate a birthday before christmas or just after? How do you prepare?
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